“…self-compassion is all about transforming myself into a ‘low-maintenance’ human. Those of us who fall into addiction are ‘high-maintenance’ people because just staying afloat in life requires so much of our inner-resources.”
I’m putting together an eBook for people interested in using mindfulness to overcome addiction problems. I’ll share the chapters on here as I write them. Here is part ten in the series – you will find links to earlier posts at the end of this one.
It is our tendency to run away from discomfort rather than towards it that is the real driving force behind addiction. It is the thought ‘I can’t deal with this’ that makes alcohol and drugs such an attractive proposition. The Vietnamese monk, Thich Nhat Hanh, once described our discomforts as being like little infants in need of our attention – the problem is that most of us habitually fail to offer soothing to our pain and instead try to ignore it or avoid it.
Developing some self-compassion is vital if we want to make progress with mindfulness. Failure to do so means we won’t feel comfortable in our own skin and therefore we won’t feel comfortable in the present moment. I used to teach loving-kindness as an additional technique to mindfulness but I now see it is a key ingredient. In this video and podcast, I explain why this is the case.
Press play to watch the video and you will find the podcast of this episode below:
I’m putting together an eBook for people interested in using mindfulness to overcome addiction problems. I’ll share the chapters on here as I write them. Here is part nine in the series – you will find links to earlier posts at the end of this one.
It is now six months since I began working at Hope Rehab Thailand as a mindfulness coach. I’m proud of the program we have created there, and it’s exciting to be part of a team that appreciates the potential of mindfulness as a recovery tool.
A Mindfulness Rehab Program for Everyone? – Well… Almost
Mindfulness has been my main recovery tool since giving up alcohol almost nine years ago. By the end of my drinking, I just wanted the pain to stop, but my life has improved in ways I couldn’t have even have imagined back then. I now experience a steady sense of inner-okayness (this doesn’t mean I’m happy all the time) that I once believed could only be found at the bottom of a bottle. Mindfulness has played a huge part in getting me to this point.
It seems so obvious to me now that most of my struggles in life have been completely unnecessary. I was like a delusional person sitting on an airplane, and frantically flapping his arms to keep the craft flying – these efforts are not only useless but they ruin the experience flying for everyone involved. In this video and podcast, I discuss how to stop treating life like a fight you need to win.
Press play to watch the video. The podcast edition of this episode can be found below: